On "Sex Appeal"
Over the last 16 years, I have been raised in a culture where modesty is important. Because of being a "Mormon" I am almost hyper aware of how I dress or come across. My parents raised me to see that my body was something sacred and not to be flaunted before the world.
Now something I find hard, in this world that I grow up in, is that modesty is something that is not taken for granted, or expected. This I understand. Most of the time cultures lacking my standards is fine. The world may be what it will, I will still be me. However, something I do take issue with and find offensive is the prevalence of online images made to be immodest and sensual. I am not talking necessarily about pornography, or explicit images. I am simply talking about all the fandom made images, video game characters, genera models, advertising in general, and media in which the woman are obviously there for sex appeal.
I find it hard to be barraged constantly by pictures of singers, actresses, models and "sexy" video game characters. Through these pictures woman are told many different things. When a friend says, "I just love playing this character!" and proceeds to show you pictures of a tall looking woman who has large breasts, an abnormally thin waist, and a large... rump, I can't help wincing. Then to see this character, with the body proportions that men seem to want, fighting battles and doing it while in a skin tight dress is more then disheartening.
The problem for me is that even if you aren't viewing porn you see women being objectified online ALL the time. This leads me to wonder how a real relationship will ever work in the future. As a Mormon, I am who I am, people may objectify me in their own minds, but I shall never let myself be used as an object. However, I still feel a pang knowing I can never measure up to what is portrayed online and in our larger American culture. I am a real girl, and as such I have hair that doesn't look silky, and when the wind blows it all wants to go into my mouth. I am average height exactly, my curves aren't even in the range of online gaming characters curves, I wear normal clothes, and I don't fight monsters... and the thing is it hurts. Through these images I see what many males would consider the "ideal" woman, and I am far from it body wise, activity wise, and not to mention dress wise.
I have nothing against gaming (in moderation). I have nothing against woman being allowed to dress how they will. I do take issue with the fact that I can see how easily it would be to "undress" many video game characters. I find it hard to believe that any man will seek for a worthwhile, and meaningful relationship in the future, because why should he? Why should you go for the real thing, when the fake thing has everything you'd like to see and is so much less work? Because of media and gaming I at least feel a layer of distress, and stress added to my life as I watch my friends spend hours playing with these "perfectly" formed and appealing characters.
No woman is just her body, and I find it unfortunate that inadvertently boys and men put such stress on the physical.